Comments on: Lost My HR Job – Now, What Do I Tell My Kids? http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids Strategies for Awesome Career Success in Human Resources! Wed, 16 May 2012 12:15:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: 12 Steps To Take Before You Lose Your HR Job… | Success in HR http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-18852 12 Steps To Take Before You Lose Your HR Job… | Success in HR Sat, 06 Mar 2010 13:59:53 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-18852 [...] As tough as it may be to discuss your fears, you need to lay it on the line with your partner about your current job situation.  Trying to protect her him/her from possible bad news, while admirable, may well backfire if your partner feels that you have intentionally kept him/her in the dark.  If there are kids involved, talk about if, when and how you’ll break the news to them.  You’ll find suggestions here. [...] [...] As tough as it may be to discuss your fears, you need to lay it on the line with your partner about your current job situation.  Trying to protect her him/her from possible bad news, while admirable, may well backfire if your partner feels that you have intentionally kept him/her in the dark.  If there are kids involved, talk about if, when and how you’ll break the news to them.  You’ll find suggestions here. [...]

]]> By: admin http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-3988 admin Wed, 01 Apr 2009 13:23:26 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-3988 Antoinette, Thanks much for the feedback. I sent you a separate response to your question directly to your e-mail address. Alan Antoinette,

Thanks much for the feedback. I sent you a separate response to your question directly to your e-mail address.

Alan

]]> By: Antoinette http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-3936 Antoinette Wed, 01 Apr 2009 01:09:41 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-3936 Alan you have offered some awesome information to many HR professionals like myself who are in search of the next opportunity. I am going to revisit my resume after looking at the style and wording of other HR professionals in the companies I would like to work for. I do have a question for you. I quite a job because of intergity issues (this is a well known company). What would you suggest someone like me say when asked why I left that position. The company was asking to lie not to mention push to hire younger candidates. Alan you have offered some awesome information to many HR professionals like myself who are in search of the next opportunity. I am going to revisit my resume after looking at the style and wording of other HR professionals in the companies I would like to work for. I do have a question for you. I quite a job because of intergity issues (this is a well known company). What would you suggest someone like me say when asked why I left that position. The company was asking to lie not to mention push to hire younger candidates.

]]> By: admin http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-3073 admin Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:14:28 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-3073 FROM SONAL (NANDINI) BAJAI at LinkedIn.com: Gone through the viewpoints of all, i would be very junior to comment anything on to this its bit early , but as HR professional i can say time had changed now , we need to understand the demand at work had gone really high and family on other side is till teying to adjust to change trend and mindset. This whole process of transformation will take time , but again one needs to remain positive,keep doing their job in relax manner , but as same time try to adopt to changing ways at work . This situation is crucial for evryone either at junior/middle/senior when evryone is getting judged by value added contributions. Family need to be supportive,we have to make them understand the changing trend in positive way. Share your family burden with spouse ,kids , if you are getting more busy these days .its just Stay Positive FROM SONAL (NANDINI) BAJAI at LinkedIn.com:

Gone through the viewpoints of all, i would be very junior to comment anything on to this its bit early , but as HR professional i can say time had changed now , we need to understand the demand at work had gone really high and family on other side is till teying to adjust to change trend and mindset.

This whole process of transformation will take time , but again one needs to remain positive,keep doing their job in relax manner , but as same time try to adopt to changing ways at work .

This situation is crucial for evryone either at junior/middle/senior when evryone is getting judged by value added contributions.

Family need to be supportive,we have to make them understand the changing trend in positive way.

Share your family burden with spouse ,kids , if you are getting more busy these days .its just Stay Positive

]]> By: admin http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-3071 admin Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:09:47 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-3071 From Sandip Glover at LinkedIn.com There is a popular saying "Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches" The grief and trauma of the person who has just been asked to go is very difficult to understand. I fully endorse comments made by Eric as well as Alan on www.succesinhr.com . However would like to share certain thoughts - First & foremost - the person concerned has to put his own emotional house in order. Now having said this I know it is not that easy. So my advice would be to try and act as a true HR consultant & examine this whole episode CLINICALLY. Detach yourself psychologically and then give advise to YOURSELF as a consultant. I can assure by this way one would be emotionally detached from the trauma being experienced to a great extent and thus would be in a better position to face the kids and rest of the world. * It is equally important that one is "scene" to be helping oneself coming out of this difficult situation. The underlined word here is "scene". If we are making efforts to come out of a difficult situation - the family would be in a different mode "to also contribute constructively", instead of making things worst. Do not forget - in the bargain your kids are getting a very important lesson in life from their father "How to face any tough situation ?" * Please make a comprehensive list of options available based on the aptitude and strengths - make an excel sheet covering options. Take help from spouse, other family members and grown up kids. INVOLVE THEM ! * Discuss and deliberate with the family members and zero down on the probable options that you would want to persue. Lastly - As I have mentioned in my blog www.sandygro.blogspot.com , these times are cyclic and would soon taper off and who knows this is God's way of making yet another CEO. With best wishes Sandip Glover From Sandip Glover at LinkedIn.com

There is a popular saying “Only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches” The grief and trauma of the person who has just been asked to go is very difficult to understand. I fully endorse comments made by Eric as well as Alan on http://www.succesinhr.com . However would like to share certain thoughts -

First & foremost – the person concerned has to put his own emotional house in order. Now having said this I know it is not that easy. So my advice would be to try and act as a true HR consultant & examine this whole episode CLINICALLY. Detach yourself psychologically and then give advise to YOURSELF as a consultant. I can assure by this way one would be emotionally detached from the trauma being experienced to a great extent and thus would be in a better position to face the kids and rest of the world.

* It is equally important that one is “scene” to be helping oneself coming out of this difficult situation. The underlined word here is “scene”. If we are making efforts to come out of a difficult situation – the family would be in a different mode “to also contribute constructively”, instead of making things worst. Do not forget – in the bargain your kids are getting a very important lesson in life from their father “How to face any tough situation ?”

* Please make a comprehensive list of options available based on the aptitude and strengths – make an excel sheet covering options. Take help from spouse, other family members and grown up kids. INVOLVE THEM !

* Discuss and deliberate with the family members and zero down on the probable options that you would want to persue.

Lastly – As I have mentioned in my blog http://www.sandygro.blogspot.com , these times are cyclic and would soon taper off and who knows this is God’s way of making yet another CEO.

With best wishes

Sandip Glover

]]> By: admin http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-3069 admin Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:06:13 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-3069 On 03/18/09 12:30 PM, Edward Baker wrote: -------------------- First and foremost if you have a family you are working to provide them with the things in life the need. Teaching your children values is the greatest contribution you can make to their development. Being honest with your family and telling them the truth is critical. That situation will by its very nature cause changes in your families life and by being honest and direct that will remove the element of fear that children can develop. In addition to telling them the truth regarding your circumstance also tell them what you are doing to locate another job as well as what changes may happen until you do locate a new opportunity. None of us are poker faced card players and kids have a sixth sense. Be loyal, be honest and be the parent who will lead by example in teaching his/her children about honest, commitment and values. Good luck! On 03/18/09 12:30 PM, Edward Baker wrote:
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First and foremost if you have a family you are working to provide them with the things in life the need. Teaching your children values is the greatest contribution you can make to their development.

Being honest with your family and telling them the truth is critical. That situation will by its very nature cause changes in your families life and by being honest and direct that will remove the element of fear that children can develop.

In addition to telling them the truth regarding your circumstance also tell them what you are doing to locate another job as well as what changes may happen until you do locate a new opportunity.

None of us are poker faced card players and kids have a sixth sense. Be loyal, be honest and be the parent who will lead by example in teaching his/her children about honest, commitment and values.

Good luck!

]]> By: admin http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-3068 admin Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:02:34 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-3068 Eric, thank you for taking time to share this very personal and thoughtful response. I love your story, words of wisdom and your take on this very difficult topic. Thank you very much. Alan. Eric, thank you for taking time to share this very personal and thoughtful response. I love your story, words of wisdom and your take on this very difficult topic. Thank you very much. Alan.

]]> By: admin http://successinhr.com/lost-my-hr-job-what-to-tell-my-kids/comment-page-1#comment-3067 admin Fri, 20 Mar 2009 11:01:33 +0000 http://www.successinhr.com/?p=1303#comment-3067 From Eric Pringle on LinkedIn.com You know, my Dad was the VP of HR at for a large truck manufacturer when I was a kid. In about 1982 (I was 12), his firm was bought by Volvo and his role was taken by one of the Swedish HR folks. He never said a thing about it - he just woke up every day and made finding a job his new job. Your family will always be understanding if you are working to be a provider and your actions will speak louder than anything you say to your family. I will note that when I went to college, he encouraged me to go into anything but HR as he felt that the closer you were to a revenue driving position, the safer you would be. Did I listen? Of course not ;) But I have always led by the example he set. When you have a job, be the best at it and you will survive a lot of downturns. If something happens that is out of your control and you find yourself without a job, work to the best of your ability to remedy that situation and be the provider your wife married. By the way, he did eventually take his own advice and has been a CEO for the last several years. From Eric Pringle on LinkedIn.com

You know, my Dad was the VP of HR at for a large truck manufacturer when I was a kid. In about 1982 (I was 12), his firm was bought by Volvo and his role was taken by one of the Swedish HR folks. He never said a thing about it – he just woke up every day and made finding a job his new job. Your family will always be understanding if you are working to be a provider and your actions will speak louder than anything you say to your family.

I will note that when I went to college, he encouraged me to go into anything but HR as he felt that the closer you were to a revenue driving position, the safer you would be. Did I listen? Of course not ;) But I have always led by the example he set. When you have a job, be the best at it and you will survive a lot of downturns. If something happens that is out of your control and you find yourself without a job, work to the best of your ability to remedy that situation and be the provider your wife married. By the way, he did eventually take his own advice and has been a CEO for the last several years.

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